This past weekend I got to spend some time over at Naomi's watching home movies with her friend Brenon, an actor, which was awesome for several reasons. We watched some of the silly and creative videos we made with our siblings and cousin when we were younger, and he showed us some of the things he'd acted in and also a few things he made with his siblings. I had a blast watching everything and laughing, and Naomi made really yummy pizza. I left Vi with my mom, and brought Wright with me, so he got to have fun, too. (Where was Sam? In nerd heaven working on his amplifier, of course.)
I really enjoy when I get to do things like this with Noms because I get to hang out with... NON-MARRIED people--or should I say NON-PARENTS. It is so nice to talk to these people. They live in a different world than me and have all sorts of interesting things to say, and I love to hear them. I feel like I get to be me and not just a role--as much as I love my "roles" sometimes I really need a break from all the married/mommy talk!
It's an interesting thing about being a SAHM, because I don't really get to talk to guys very much (hello I'm a Muslim woman!). I mean, don't get me wrong, I really need and love the girl-talk (I honestly would die without it because Sam is suuuch a guy), but it seems like once you're married, the group setting tends to split up into to girls and guys ALL of the time. Sometimes I feel quite the estrogen overload. Let's face it, guys can be so much funnier and laid back than most girls. They also tend to talk about a wider variety of subjects. We girls have the weight of our families on our minds so much that we get too serious and, ugh, dramatic.
I'm not quite sure what the protocol is for mixing up the guys & girls more and/or talking with other peoples' husbands. I always feel like there is a time limit, like, "oop, it's been five minutes, better move on to a girl convo over there..." For the record, anyone is welcome to talk to my husband for any length of time, just ask him about amplifiers, heheh.
Back to my original thought; this is why I love hanging out with my single sis and her single guy and girl friends. I don't have to spin around in my head worrying about any of this crap, I can just relax and enjoy discovering different headspaces...
2 comments:
I'm SOOOO with you on the whole segregation of men and women when you are married/parents. I really really hate that, and I know some women who push it. Like one says "Let's meet at the park later so we can walk around and talk and the guys can play basketball". Whoa, wait. I might want to play basketball and Shane might not. Shane hates it too because it so sheep to do stuff like that. I think some of the husbands are much more fun to talk to than the wives. And when we go to Shane's work stuff, I spend most of the time talking to the guys than the women. Much more fun.
It's funny you talk about Shane--I think the guys get the worst end of the bargain, because no one seems to ask their opinion! In coupledom girls usually drive the friendships, while the guys are just stuck hanging out with each other--they might not even have anything in common! :p~
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